How many of us think we need to be perfect, and when something doesn’t go the way we planned it feels like a failure? I love this definition: “Perfectionism is the price of the never-ending desire; to never getting to the end of anything!” As a Daring Way Facilitator, I had the privilege to be trained by Dr. Brene` Brown; who has written several best-selling books about perfectionism. In her book, The Gifts of Imperfection, Dr. Brown explains how perfectionism emerged from her research. The definition that best fit her data is that “Perfectionism is a self-destructive and addictive belief system that fuels this primary thought: If I look perfect, live perfectly, work perfectly, and everything perfectly, I can avoid or minimize the painful feeling of shame, judgment, and blame.” Dr. Brown uses an analogy by stating it is a twenty-ton shield
Read more →